So it’s the holidays and you just got, or are in the midst of a divorce. It’s the time of year when people start hanging stockings, breaking out holiday sweaters, and stockpiling eggnog. For those who recently have gone through a divorce, this festive time can be confusing and challenging. Here are a few simple tips on handling the holidays and a divorce.
Give Yourself a Break
Despite our best efforts, emotions can seem to get the best of us. Yes, it’s supposed to be a season of cheer and goodwill, but that shouldn’t stop you from allowing a moment of sadness here and there. Sometimes you may need a good cry – or it may be enough to notice – and accept – that you feel sad.
Take Comfort in Others
If you have children, you might be facing days away from them this holiday season as they spend time with your ex. Make sure to reach out to your family and friends on those days – don’t feel like you need to be alone! A strong support system will be invaluable in helping you get through the challenges of the holiday season during and after a divorce.
Start New Traditions
It can be overwhelming to come to grips with the fact that some parts of your life will never be the same – especially when it comes to holiday traditions. So this year, why don’t you start some new traditions of your own? Whether these rituals are for you and your children or just you, creating a new family habit can be very freeing.
While the holidays during and after a divorce can be an unwelcome unknown, you can chart these new waters by creating new traditions and remembering to take care of yourself throughout it all.
Brenda Keen is Board Certified in Family Law serving Houston and surrounding areas. Brenda is an advocate of using the collaborative divorce process. For many people, , the collaborative process helps to prepare a divorced couple to manage relationships with family and friends post-divorce. The question of “What Now?” is easier to answer because of the collaborative divorce process. Click here for more information on collaborative divorce.
If you have any questions about the holidays after a divorce or about divorce in general, please feel free to contact us.