1. Don’t go it alone!
Whatever you do, don’t shut yourself up and spend the holidays alone. Divorce is an emotional time and being alone with depressing thoughts is the last thing you want to do. Make plans with friends or family, even if it seems hard to do so. Getting out will be good for you!
2. Break the traditions!
If you’re out with friends and family, you don’t want reminders of your marriage or your ex popping back up. Don’t go to the restaurant where you used to spend the holidays. Try something new! Make new, better memories with the people you love. Ask your kids to brainstorm new traditions to mix in with the old ones.
3. Plan ahead for the kids!
Divorce is hard on the whole family, but the holidays don’t have to be hectic if you plan ahead! Make sure you discuss an agreed schedule that will allow both of you to spend special time with the kids. Think about arranging to drop off and pick them up somewhere festive, like a local mall. Seeing them all excited in a festive environment will be good for you and for them.
4. Take a vacation!
You deserve a trip after the emotional roller coaster that the divorce has brought on. Even if you can’t afford to fly across the country to somewhere fancy, find a way to treat yourself. Take a day trip to somewhere nearby, spend an afternoon at a museum you’ve been meaning to get to, or visit that local tourist attraction you’ve never seen. Find some way to get away, even for just a few hours.
5. Don’t forget to relax!
Holidays are a stressful time. Remember to take some time to enjoy yourself. Plan ahead so that you don’t panic over the presents or the cooking. Do something you enjoy to unwind. Watch a movie with the kids or with a friend. Bake cookies together or work on a puzzle. Find something fun and simple to do one night.
Divorces are hard and can make the holidays harder, but these tips can make things easier for you this season. Don’t forget to check back here for more tips on life after divorce!
Brenda D. Keen is a board certified family law attorney. She has helped thousands of divorce clients over the course of her career and understands the challenges that her clients face both during and after divorce.